Professional Canine Bereavement Counselling
Adrianne Beattie IAHT Dip.can.brv.
Our company is based on the belief that our customers' needs are of the utmost importance. We are committed to meeting all of those needs. As a result, a high percentage of our business is from repeat customers and referrals.
Over the years working closely and intimately with clients and their dogs we have been in the position of being involved when very difficult decisions need to be made, when a dog passes or is seized or lost.
We have extended our practice to now include professional and fully qualified Canine Bereavement Counselling in order to know that the heartfelt care that we gave before, is proper and correct advice for those struggling with grief.
We would welcome the opportunity to earn your trust in our service
Our beautiful girl Bootsie
Always in our thoughts and hearts.. love you always Little-Boo
Helping children cope with the death of a dog:
Explain to any adults who may be involved in the child's life - teachers, guide or scout leaders, that they are grieving for their dog, and therefore may act out of character. Anyone who is involved in the teaching or development of a child will understand.
If your dog was euthanised, be careful that you do not inadvertently imply that it was vet's or anyone elses fault. This will only lead your child to blame them for the death of their pet, and will distort their mind.
Take the time to talk openly and honestly with a child that a dogs life is very much shorter than that of ours..
Allow your little one to become involved in making a memorial to the dog. Younger children can be comforted by looking at and choosing a star in the night sky.
Don't make up stories about where the dog has gone, (this may lead to a child misunderstanding what death means (ie don't explain a dogs death by saying we have 'lost' the dog - a child will assume that you mean the dog is alive but missing).
Share your feelings with your child and let them share their feelings with you. Showing a child that it is ok to cry or grieve over the dog lets the child know that you cared deeply for the dog too.
Encourage questions, but be prepared that some of their questions may appear rather odd, or you may feel they are asking for too many details. Be sensitive in any response you give, but be honest.
Helping friends through grief.. its hard to know what to say...
Grieving can last much longer than most expect, owners may require support for months after the death of their dog If you can, offer your support for as long as it takes. Offers of sympathy from family and friends are usually given within the first few days of pet bereavement, at a time when the owner is feeling raw, numb, and hasn't yet had time to comprehend what impact their loss will actually have on their lives.. But once this initial period passes and everyone appears to be getting on with their lives, the owner can feel very isolated and alone, and this is the time that your support will be most valuable.
Certain times and days of the year will be particularly difficult for the owner, and can re-awaken their grief, knowing that support is still there, no matter how long after the dogs death, will be reassuring.
Support will vary, depending on what stage of grieving they are at.
Obviously, if the dog is nearing the end of its life, then they will be looking for guidance as to what to expect over the last days, weeks or months of their pet's life. They will also be looking for reassurance that they will know when the time is right to take their pet for euthanasia.
Owners often have fears with regard to how their pet will die; many being afraid that their pet will die in pain.
At the time of dying or during euthanasia, the owner will need guidance, either with regard to the euthanasia process, or about what they can do with their pet's body and aftercare options.
Post death/loss of a dog, an owner is often looking for reassurance that they will get through their grief. They are looking for support to validate how they feel, and will benefit most from those who can empathise.
Facing family, friends and colleagues after the dog has died can be daunting, and many owners feel they have to lie to their boss for the reason they did not go to work, or were taking time off, for fear that their employer will not understand.
Grieving affects people both emotionally and physically, and owners need to take care of themselves by getting enough rest, eating properly, exercising and taking time to relax. Above all, those who are suffering should ask for help, and not allow their grief to completely overtake their ability to function.
How will I know when its the right time?
Having to make the decision to end a dogs life is the ultimate act of love, however, this brings enormous feelings of guilt. If the dogs life is terminated prematurely or the owner has delayed making the decision, this will compound the feelings of guilt afterwards, an owner can carry with them for years.
A lot of owners assume that a dog has to be in pain to be suffering. With advances in Veterinary Science, pain can be controlled and managed.
However, even with pain control and management, a dog can begin to suffer when their 'quality of life' starts to slip away. When a dog looses interest in life, has difficulty eating, wants to sleep all day, finds it difficult to interact, stops drinking water, and has difficulty in walking or going to the toilet. When some or all these factors are evident, the dog is moving from quality of life into quantity of life, and suffering begins. Many want to believe that if their dog is still wagging their tail that this means they are not suffering. This is not true, many a seriously ill or dying dogs will still wag their tail. The Vet will be able to guide you on how much they can actually do to alleviate pain and the symptoms of a dog suffering, and when no more can be done to sustain any quality of life for the pet.
Trust in your own judgement when the 'time is right', you will know within your own heart, coupled with the advice from your Vet or Behaviour Practitioner. Many dog owners reading this, will have been in this situation before, and can identify with how difficult it is to decide when the time is right, For those of you faced with making the decision for the first time, know that you are not alone.
If it should be that I grow weak,
And my pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle can’t be won,
You will be sad --- I understand,
Don’t let your grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love and friendship stand the test,
We’ve had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears,
You’d not want me to suffer, So,
when the time comes, please let me go
Take me where my needs they’ll tend,
Only stay with me to the end,
And hold me firm and speak to me,
Until my eyes no longer see,
I know in time that you will see
It is a kindness you do to me,
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I’ve been saved
And please don’t grieve it should be you
Who has to decide this thing to do?
We’ve been so close - we two - these years,
Don’t let your heart hold any tears
Canine Bereavement Counselling
You can contact us by email/text or facebook/twitter
Client confidentiality at all times
Counselling sessions by appointment ..we can also hold sessions if you prefer as we walk around your dogs' local parks and favourite areas.
Sessions are 60 minutes, priced at £40 each..
J. G. ''Having your support through the last month of my beautiful broken boy's life was a huge comfort. I wouldn't have been able to get through it without the support and compassion you gave x''
''I wasn't expecting the sudden moments of real sadness, it helped to have someone to be able to talk to an some kind of way to cope with them without feeling like I was brushing my feelings aside, somehow that feels like being disloyal.''
''I lost my own beautiful girl in July '16 - after 15 wonderful years, I know only too well how grief grips hold of us, we all experience it differently, but I used my own techniques to help me through the every worst''
I would like to thank you for being there to talk to and walk with in Brodies favourite place, it meant so much to be able to feel good about grieving for him, and you were right - I do enjoy grieving, its part of my love that I share with him thank you so much I recommend anyone to indulge themselves in a counselling session with yourselves
Talking to someone professional actually felt like I wasn't annoying my friends with the same old conversation, its been a year since I lost my best friend and I still feel badly choked up at times. I felt better for having just one appointment and know that I can always book another if I go through a bad patch again. Thank You
Look for me in Rainbows
Time for me to go now, I won't say goodbye;
Look for me in rainbows, way up in the sky.
In the morning sunrise when all the world is new,
Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you.
Time for me to leave you, I won't say goodbye;
Look for me in rainbows, high up in the sky.
In the evening sunset, when all the world is through,
Just look for me and love me, and I'll be close to you.
It won't be forever, the day will come and then
My loving arms will hold you, when we meet again.
Time for us to part now, we won't say goodbye;
Look for me in rainbows, shining in the sky.
Every waking moment, and all your whole life through
Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you.
Just wish me to be near you,
And I'll be there with you.
Music and lyrics: Conn Bernard (1990). Vicki Brown
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